Just a quick sudden crisis of not wanting anyone or anything. So I figured I’ll just stay here and write. By the time I manage to turn the laptop on and bring this page up, all the while repeating the first sentence of what I wish to write in my head like a mantra, almost the whole of this mood is gone. Disparu, disappeared, gone with the wind. In the wind? In the repeated sentence? Nobody knows. Is it the release that begins even in the first steps of thinking about what you want to write? Is it that really it did work as a mantra, and that mantras do have a special power after all, and that any kind of sentence can be turned into a mantra if you repeat it times enough?
I’ve got unanswered questions about my moods, but then again I’ve always had, and I can’t complain, because whoever asks is given answers, and through the year I’ve been given sufficient answers so that I can freak out less and less when the mood swing strikes. Trying to attribute it to something is not always easy, and maybe not always useful, certainly not always fruitful, and it’s a double-bladed sword since it can very well turn against you and push you further down the great hole of wondering and doubting. I pause. I reread. Why are my sentences suddenly so strangely huge? I choose not to correct them. As long as they’re readable, let them be. I had something else to write about, what was it?
Of course, the attempts to attribute the sudden cloud to something. I pass right on by PMS, higher sugar intake and the weather this time. It could only be the third objective, a cloudy weather always brings some clouds, psychologists even have a name for this. But this time, oh this time, I believe I know the culprit. And I think it’s called fear.
Once again the lovely entity of fear slipped into my mind as I was mindlessly – mindlessly huh? what an irony – riding the bus home. Come think of it, it must look kind of like a Dementor, only not so concrete nor so dangerous. After all, let us not forget that Joan depicted depression with her Dementors, the ultimate step of the conquest of fear, and luckily we’re way behind that. So it must look like what a Dementor leaves behind. The shadowy ribbons and ragged threads at the edges of his gown. And then it passes right through the open window of the bus, or better put, right through the open window of the unsuspected, wondering mind, and you’re pretty much screwed.
What can we do about it? That begins as a rhetorical question but at some point I’ll ask it to myself. For now it’s like that. The mind trails off from time to time. What does the mind need to be absolutely content? I modify the question, what is the mind’s worst enemy, the open invitation to the shadowy edge of the Dementor’s gown, the cloudy weather on the inside? I’d say it’s uncertainty. And instability. Within the fast-paced era, I’ve never not known uncertainty and instability, even back in those days when I couldn’t pinpoint them as the root of all evil. At an age when everything is changing, (yeah, I mean middle 20s), the cause of the trouble is clear, and sometimes even loud to me. I guess it needed to be collectively reflected upon the eyes of my friends for me to notice its ubiquitous presence.
It’s the not knowing. And it’s the always changing. Routines, places, countries, cities, priorities, ideas, possibly goals in life, Windows. (That last one fucks us all up).
Well, instead of getting into it, putting all the different hues of the fear down on paper, analyzing them like crazy, trying to reason with the newborn/old-soul thoughts, I’ll just say to myself, and to anyone this might help (I’m thinking of my two or three friends who might actually read this) :
It’s an illusion. No, fear is not, fear is very much there for you to touch it. But… Certainty is. Stability is. These two little things have always been, are, and always will be, an illusion.
Let that sink in.
Hey, we live on an ever-moving globe, which is not only always in a dance around itself and around the sun at incredible speeds, but also constantly travels through a mostly undiscovered space, in unison with the rest of the globes around it. What, did you miss the physics class where you were supposed to learn that solar systems are constantly moving through space? What, am I making your existential crisis worse now? Relax. It’ll pass, again. So. We’re ever moving. We don’t know to which direction, and we don’t know why. But if any of those ever-moving things stayed still, we’d all die.
So once again, moving, even towards unknown directions, – or maybe especially towards unknown directions, is life. So yes, we live in constant uncertainty and instability. And that’s okay. We acquire balance skills. And nobody can throw a spoiler at us. We’re ever-changing and unstable and uncertain. And that’s okay.
So I’m not trying to reason with your fears here, or tell you they will pass, or comfort you (and me) that soon everything will be set and stable and we’ll have no huge changes in our lives and no doubts. I’m telling you, and me, embrace the doubt. Immerse yourself in it. Do you have anything better to do? Would you rather settle in a fifty-year-old’s never-changing fixed routine, existent only in fiction which freezes moments in time and turns them into clichés? I’d rather have the Dementor’s ragged gown edges slip into my brain from time to time, have them make a fist and clench my stomach in fear, a thousand different hues of fear, have me open up a Word page, cleanse and carry on with the process of living once again.
Think about it.
Enjoy this while you’re thinking. It will probably help more than I.